Friday, 12 September 2014

Perhaps. I would feel the same?

Hi

1 month ago i lost my beautiful baby boy at 36weeks and 6 days due to a umbilical cord accident. we are doing alright, i have good days and very bad days where i feel really empty, sad and i miss him so much. my husband and i are ready to try again but we know nothing will replace him, i am really afraid  to conceive next time or if i do, worried if this could repeat.
has anyone had a successful pregnancy after a stillbirth and how soon one can try

.... We lost our daughter at 37 weeks on 12/27.  I was told to wait 6 months for my mental health, but that physically we were clear to start as soon as my period came back.  It has been about 5 months since our loss, and I am almost 3 months pregnant now. 

Everything has been healthy and fine so far, but I will admit that I am having a very hard time bonding at all with this baby.  I keep feeling like it isn't real and waiting for something bad to happen.  A lot of people in my birth club are making these cute pregnancy announcements, and I feel like I can't do that- just in case.  I feel like I want to hide it from everyone until the baby is actually born.  I was really bummed out when my son figured it out and I had to tell my kids- especially so early on.  I went in for the doppler on Tuesday.  I had declined it at my last visit because one of my triggers is the silent doppler noise.  So, we heard the heartbeat and I just layed there and felt numb and blank.  No emotions.  The midwife was positive and said things are looking great.  All I could say was "It's too early."  She hugged me.

So, I'm going to say that waiting may be better emotionally.  I really don't know for sure because we didn't wait as long as they recommended.

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